Comments on: Friends 4eva

By: My take on flakes

My take on flakes — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 04:25:20 +0000

[...] is an embarrassingly late announcement, but I wrote about the slow demise of friendship over at the fab quarterlife hub Umm… Now what? Despite what it seems, I don’t think [...]

By: Claire

Claire — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 14:48:44 +0000

Oh, I’m so scared of this after I graduate. I’m a college senior now, and am finally starting to feel totally at home in my group of friends. It’s wonderful, but I’m afraid it will make graduating that much harder. I’m very shy, very introverted, and it takes me forever to make close friends. Oh, and I’m not very good at staying in touch with people.

On the other hand, it could be worse–by this time in my senior year of high school, my closest friendship was already on the rocks, and I think we were both counting the days until college so we could just be done with each other already. So, you know, at least my friends and I are likely to end college still friends. That’s a bonus. haha

But at least other people are feeling this too–good post!

By: EmmaElizabeth

EmmaElizabeth — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:09:27 +0000

There are countless times when I wish I could go back to my senior year of college. It was the best time of my life. I too send those IM’s and facebook comments saying “miss you! lets catch up!” merely hoping to feel that feeling of senior year again. It was magical. Then I graduated and yes… the real world? Not always fun. However, I’m starting to like the new phase. I have a wonderful job, live on my own, and my new coworkers are my newest set of friends. I can’t really complain, but I will forever wish to go back to senior year.

By: Princess Pointful

Princess Pointful — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 18:02:08 +0000

It is funny how friends can be the first to fall to the wayside when “real life” hits. I hate how I sometimes find social relationships overwhelming… they should be relaxing, and outside of the category of another demand!

By: Jess

Jess — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 22:37:43 +0000

Great post Michelle! I am right there with you. It is so hard to keep up with high school friends… college friends… study abroad friends, etc etc. It’s A LOT of work. And it doesn’t help that I moved to the other side of the country from everyone I know. It sounds like you are doing a pretty good job of maintaining your friendships though. That is pretty admirable because not everyone has the patience to do it.

By: ashley

ashley — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 21:54:52 +0000

I like this.

I am totally with you - it’s so hard to make it work. But I’m trying. Post-college (add in newlywed to the equation and it’s even more complicated) letdown has got me.

By: brandy

brandy — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 21:24:41 +0000

So well said Michelle! I can relate to a lot of this. In highschool my friends and I made a pact we would all go to university together. They didn’t go- I did. I remade new friends. The best of friends. I thought my time in school would cement the friendships I would have forever. But then, we (like you!) graduated and threw ourselves all over the map. Even the ones I’m geographically close to sometimes seem very far away. We (like you!) are trying to make more of an effort. I’ve found that weddings help- with everyone getting married there’s always planning and talking to do. Sometimes just having a starting point helps everyone get back and track- and remember, really remember, why you were all friends in the first place.

By: Friends 4eva

Friends 4eva — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 20:17:07 +0000

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By: Mandy Q.

Mandy Q. — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 19:47:04 +0000

I was actually just feeling this very way THIS MORNING before I read this. I had a group of very close knit friends in high school. Inseparable for 6 years. Once college started, it became tougher. Some of us were local, either at the community college or at the university, and one went across the country. My best friend and I were still pretty good about getting together, until she had a start-of-life crisis and decided to quit school and get a horrible graveyard shift job. I never saw her anymore. Then she tried school again, and now she’s back to no school. I try to be there for her, but it’s hard when you are just at different stages in your life and disagree about so much. We love each other, but it has seemed so much more forced the last few times we’ve hung out.

We’re trying to fix it, but the hardest part is that we don’t really have any of the same friends anymore. We used to go to the same church but she left it, and we used to have some school friends, but she’s not in touch with them anymore. I guess the hardest part is that we don’t relate like we used to.