Comments on: Shackin’ Up http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/ Overcoming the Quarter-life Crisis Fri, 18 May 2012 11:37:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: cindy http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-2630 cindy Thu, 16 Apr 2009 13:29:56 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-2630 great post! The bf and I have lived together going on 2.5 years. Everything you mentioned is so true. lol. I just wanted to add that I totally agree about having "alone" time. I didn't really appreciate it before when I wasm't doing much. Now that my life has become exponentially busy, "alone" time is a precious commodity to me. great post! The bf and I have lived together going on 2.5 years. Everything you mentioned is so true. lol. I just wanted to add that I totally agree about having “alone” time. I didn’t really appreciate it before when I wasm’t doing much. Now that my life has become exponentially busy, “alone” time is a precious commodity to me.

]]> By: Eric http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1242 Eric Sat, 06 Dec 2008 20:28:04 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1242 I really dislike the whole co-dependency thing as well. When a couple can't be apart for more than an hour without the other calling, texting, emailing, etc, it just reinforces my anti-marriage stance. I really dislike the whole co-dependency thing as well. When a couple can’t be apart for more than an hour without the other calling, texting, emailing, etc, it just reinforces my anti-marriage stance.

]]> By: Jess http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1227 Jess Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:30:59 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1227 Oh man, I totally know a BobandKelly, although it's technically AdamandKelly. And even though he's great, it does tend to seem like there is a 90 minute time limit to the time they spend apart in the evenings. Honestly, a lot of this comes in to play when living with roommates as well. This should definitely be a must-read for anyone in their 20s. Thanks! Oh man, I totally know a BobandKelly, although it’s technically AdamandKelly. And even though he’s great, it does tend to seem like there is a 90 minute time limit to the time they spend apart in the evenings.

Honestly, a lot of this comes in to play when living with roommates as well. This should definitely be a must-read for anyone in their 20s. Thanks!

]]> By: s'mat http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1218 s'mat Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:04:38 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1218 bang on regarding the expectations... seems like the Big Three are also a specific subset of these... i relate closely to the comments suggesting alone-time as well. integral for this cat. also some friggin empathy would be nice... you know, compassion, understanding, support, an allowance once in while for when the typical pattern isn't met (for WHATEVER reason!!)... bang on regarding the expectations… seems like the Big Three are also a specific subset of these… i relate closely to the comments suggesting alone-time as well. integral for this cat. also some friggin empathy would be nice… you know, compassion, understanding, support, an allowance once in while for when the typical pattern isn’t met (for WHATEVER reason!!)…

]]> By: jessica maria http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1201 jessica maria Tue, 02 Dec 2008 16:01:56 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1201 Great post! My boyfriend (now fiancee) moved in with me officially at the beginning of the year, and we live great together (THANK THE LORD) but the issues you list are definitely things we needed to talk about at one point - you gotta deal with it! Great post! My boyfriend (now fiancee) moved in with me officially at the beginning of the year, and we live great together (THANK THE LORD) but the issues you list are definitely things we needed to talk about at one point - you gotta deal with it!

]]> By: A Super Girl http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1196 A Super Girl Tue, 02 Dec 2008 14:30:21 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1196 Very timely post for me as I've been thinking about moving in with the bf. However my parents, in their old-fashioned ways, have said that if I do, they will revoke all wedding-related financial assistance if/when I get married some day. I'm not one to kick money to the curb, so that has me re-thinking everything. Which is probably a good thing. I think one mistake we 20-somethings make is that we rush into this for convenience, and that was one of my main reasons, aside from loving him and all of that. And when you're talking merging lives, "convenience" just isn't a good enough reason to do it. There's too much baggage if it doesn't work out. This comment feels very scattered :-) But oh well. Very timely post for me as I’ve been thinking about moving in with the bf. However my parents, in their old-fashioned ways, have said that if I do, they will revoke all wedding-related financial assistance if/when I get married some day. I’m not one to kick money to the curb, so that has me re-thinking everything. Which is probably a good thing. I think one mistake we 20-somethings make is that we rush into this for convenience, and that was one of my main reasons, aside from loving him and all of that. And when you’re talking merging lives, “convenience” just isn’t a good enough reason to do it. There’s too much baggage if it doesn’t work out.

This comment feels very scattered :-) But oh well.

]]> By: miss button http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1192 miss button Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:42:49 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1192 This is really good! I've been living with mr button for 4 years (on and off), and we are still working some of these things out... And I'm totally with you on the "Thank You" thing. There was a while of me getting annoyed before I even realised what the issue was! Then I talked to him, and now we are both thankers. It makes me happy. This is really good! I’ve been living with mr button for 4 years (on and off), and we are still working some of these things out…
And I’m totally with you on the “Thank You” thing. There was a while of me getting annoyed before I even realised what the issue was! Then I talked to him, and now we are both thankers. It makes me happy.

]]> By: Andy http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1190 Andy Mon, 01 Dec 2008 21:51:27 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1190 Hm... this should be posted as the Commandments of living together. I don't see anything to be added. Oh yes. The food. It always gets weird with the food, because there are people used to eat very "odd" things, and it might get messy when you are paired up with someone more conventional on the culinary aspect. Hm… this should be posted as the Commandments of living together. I don’t see anything to be added.

Oh yes. The food. It always gets weird with the food, because there are people used to eat very “odd” things, and it might get messy when you are paired up with someone more conventional on the culinary aspect.

]]> By: Ginger http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1189 Ginger Mon, 01 Dec 2008 18:37:35 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1189 You're dead on about the big 3, but I think your nod to the little differences is just as important. The devil is in the details, so they say, and I think a lot of the biggest issues I've seen couples have is in those little things no one would EVER think about. For my husband and I, it was things like setting the thermometer at night, or how I'm crazy about the sheets having to be smooth before going to bed, or who gets to read the Rolling Stone first. I think you have to think about the details so you don't have these crazy expectations that your partner (and now roommate!) will just...know. You’re dead on about the big 3, but I think your nod to the little differences is just as important. The devil is in the details, so they say, and I think a lot of the biggest issues I’ve seen couples have is in those little things no one would EVER think about. For my husband and I, it was things like setting the thermometer at night, or how I’m crazy about the sheets having to be smooth before going to bed, or who gets to read the Rolling Stone first. I think you have to think about the details so you don’t have these crazy expectations that your partner (and now roommate!) will just…know.

]]> By: Jane http://ummnowwhat.com/2008/12/01/shackin-up/#comment-1187 Jane Mon, 01 Dec 2008 16:59:54 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=283#comment-1187 I agree with nicoleantoinette - for me, alone time is crucial to my sanity. If possible, try to find a living space where you can each have your own "space," even if it's just a desk area. Also? If you can afford it, it never hurts to have a maid come in once or twice a month. I agree with nicoleantoinette - for me, alone time is crucial to my sanity. If possible, try to find a living space where you can each have your own “space,” even if it’s just a desk area.

Also? If you can afford it, it never hurts to have a maid come in once or twice a month.

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