I swear, the acronym wasn’t planned
On Monday, Mr.5280 wrote about the trifecta of qualities he loves in the ladies. Which? Got me thinking about the qualities I enjoy in men. And by ‘enjoy’, I mean, qualities that make me swoon. Swoon like I should be wearing a corset, sort of swooning. My list is definitely longer than three, but because I like a challenge (and I’m seriously looking for ways to challenge myself now that *football season is over), so I decided to see if I could stick to three as well. My trifecta of swoony goodness can be easily explained like this:
Be F.I.T.- and it has nothing to do with working out.
1. Be Funny- It’s like, catnip for the brain. There’s just something ridiculously sexy about a guy who knows how to make woman laugh. If you are a guy trying to get into a womans pants heart, my #1 piece of advice is make her laugh. Though there’s a lot of different kinds of humor, the kind that gets my heart racing is the witty banter, the jokes that are laced with political references, self deprecation or nods to obscure pop culture. I kid you not, if John Goodman was as funny as Jon Stewart, there’s a chance I would be ripping off Goodman’s clothes if I ever got the chance. Okay. Maybe I took that too far. But you feel me, don’t you?
2. Be Interesting- I’m not saying you need to have a life story that rivals Lance Armstrong (**who I despise, in ways you can’t even BEGIN to fathom ), but you’ve got to have something that makes you excited, something you are passionate about. I don’t care if you collect baseball cards, you follow politics more closely than Wolf Blitzer or have decided your lifes goal is to try to drink a beer from every country in the world, you have to have something that’s yours. That makes you, well,… you. Extra points if this interest doesn’t involve nude photos of Brooke Burns.
3. Be Thoughtful- And this is the one where guys start rolling their eyes, but I promise you it’s not that bad. I’m not saying that I need a guy to show up at my house every Tuesday with a handful of flowers and a handwritten copy of my favourite poem, to me- that sort of thing gets awkward and is likely to push me into a tragic addiction to drinking. What I mean is, a guy who remembers the name of your first crush, the details of your last nightmare, the particulars of your favourite memory with your grandfather, those are the things a girl, well at least this girl, is going to appreciate. Because in my brain, being able to remember those little details makes me think you were paying attention. And paying attention equals caring more about what I’m saying than what you are going to make me for breakfast the next day.
But in case you are curious, I do like waffles.
Tell me, what qualities would be in your trifecta of swoon?
*And yes, I know… technically it’s not over but IT IS OVER IN MY HEART.
** And yes, I know… there’s probably a special spot in Hell reserved for people who don’t love Lance. I’m fully prepared to be going there.
(Sidenote: I know it got mentioned yesterday but we did pretty great in terms of nominations at the 20sb awards! Princess Pointful is up for Blog With the Best Title, Best Commentor, Most Sincere AND Most Distinct Voice, Mr 5280 got nominated in my favourite category of “Blogger you would most like to have a beer with”, I got nominated a few times and collectively “Um… Now What?” is up for best group blog! So if you are a member of 20sb, and feel like these guys, or this blog deserves your vote, make sure you do so as soon as voting opens up!)
January 8th, 2009 at 12:25 am
I’ll join you in hell because I don’t like Lance either.
January 8th, 2009 at 12:47 am
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January 8th, 2009 at 2:56 am
Dorkishness is a winner for me. And scruffiness. Along with the three you describe. Plus they need to have passion for something– I couldn’t deal with someone who just floated through life.
January 8th, 2009 at 7:37 am
I like a man with ambition and a love of sports, red wine and cheese. Good thing I’m going out with N - he has all those things in spades
January 8th, 2009 at 9:22 am
So what you are saying is you kind of want a guy who is a mix between:
Wolf Blitzer- Because come on, it’s Wolf.
Tom Hanks- Mr. Thoughtful, at least when it comes to playing in movies with Meg Ryan.
Jon Stewart- Witty with a good sense of humor.
Good luck with that.
January 8th, 2009 at 10:34 am
this trifecta would get a dude in my pants as well.
we’re pretty much one in the same, and you summed it all up better than i could.
January 8th, 2009 at 11:05 am
I’d lean to the “Intense/Passionate” side of “Interesting.” I love it when a guy gets REALLY fired up about work, sports, cars, whatever he’s into…it’s a strong indicator that he’ll get that fired up about ME.
Also, I have very klutzy and awkward tendencies so a dude needs to possess the ability to laugh at me…kindly…and at himself as well. Anyone who takes themselves too seriously, male or female, is just not someone I’m inclined to be around.
January 8th, 2009 at 11:37 am
I am all about the funny, interesting and thoughtful guy. I have dated a few not so good looking guys because they had a good blend of these qualities. Especially funny.
Funny is important.
January 8th, 2009 at 11:38 am
I’m in agreement about this trifecta working perfectly. Especially the funny - catnip for the brain is right!
January 8th, 2009 at 12:37 pm
well i have a seat engraved with my name on it down there because not only do i despise lance but also MARIO LOPEZ. yes, not even the dimples can sway me.
anyways, i agree with your list but i like for my boy to have a bit of nerdiness in him. like he might happen to know a lot about some kind of topic such as, computer hard drives, some aspect of world history, etc.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
I am going to have to send you an email because I kind of like Lance and need to know your reasons for not liking him. I am not fond of his dating habits, but otherwise? Tell me! I need to know!
January 8th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
I dig all the things that you mentioned. I also like a little bit of nerdiness, blended with interest. My dude loves chess, Russian history, and Brazilian jujitsu and honestly when we first met, that passion for those various things made me want to go out for coffee with him and hear all about them.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
OK.
so maybe my comment was a little sour-castic there, after re-reading it. I think maybe I was just jealous because I didnt make my trifecta into an acronym. I hate being out-gunned…
If you want my honest opinion, he’s out there- and you BFF, deserve nothing less than Wolf Hanks Stewart.
January 9th, 2009 at 3:05 pm
this dude would get in my pants as well, and i’m mostly a guy… quick stip though: to be interesting… that could confuse the eedjits of the world who find that synonymous with vaingloriousness… quickest way to be interesting? be interested!
January 10th, 2009 at 5:40 pm
hmmm good question!
i’ll go with:
-wiity
-sincere
-combative (ie not a lap dog)
May 24th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
totally enjoyed reading this story.