Comments on: Proceed with caution

By: Maxie

Maxie — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 13:36:46 +0000

If you like her enough, wait. You’ll be kicking yourself for years if you don’t. You’ll always wonder what if…

By: Mermanda

Mermanda — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:51:13 +0000

Is she worth waiting around for? If you feel something special for her… maybe so. Give her a little space and time. If not… move on.

By: CourtneyRyan

CourtneyRyan — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:36:58 +0000

I agree with most of what’s up there…keep your distance - friends are fine and remember that there are allllll sorts of friends!

Are you fascinated with what you can’t really have, or genuinely interested in her?

By: AuburnKat

AuburnKat — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 01:27:06 +0000

I can tell you one thing Matt, it doesn’t matter how much I’m into a guy, if he accidently says “my fiance” about his ex, it’s over for me. I also, I guess you could say am a bit hardened from my past relationships and don’t see any point in wasting my time.

That being said, you have to do what your gut is telling you to do.

By: La Petite Belle

La Petite Belle — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 00:07:04 +0000

I agree. Proceed.. but with caution. I guess you answered your own question with your post title, my friend!

By: brandy

brandy — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:47:48 +0000

BFF, if we waited until things were perfect, nothing would ever happen. Hmm, that’s me pretending to be insightful when honestly, I have no words of wisdom. Thank Jesus everyone on the internet is smarter than me. Listen to them. (And yes, this will be the only time when I tell you to listen to other people rather than me)

I ALMOST threw out an emoticon but I’m just not feeling it today. Let’s pray this feeling sticks.

By: [F]oxymoron

[F]oxymoron — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:23:43 +0000

I agree with Ibluca77 above…

… that being said, I see nothing wrong with a little nude sunbathing, as long as you both are honest and up front with each other

By: Princess Pointful

Princess Pointful — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:19:03 +0000

My secret– I’ve been that girl, to a certain extent.
And I actually don’t think you should run.

Honestly, it seems to me that people are putting too much of a formula onto this. If she is the type of girl who has never been single before, and seems clingy– yeah, you’re a rebound, and you should probably run.

However, I fell head over heels not long (i.e., less than four months) after I ended a 6 year relationship. Sure, it could have been a rebound, but we are doing better than me and 6-year-guy ever did, 2.5 years in. Sure, he had to put up with a little drama, more on the part of others than me, though. But, quite frankly, I spent the last year of my relationship preparing for it to end, so I wasn’t really in a bad state when it ended– plus, I broke up with him.
Just because it was nine years doesn’t mean she’s still a mess about it. It doesn’t means she isn’t, either. You know her better than we do– if you feel like it could be something, you know the risks as well as we do!

By: lbluca77

lbluca77 — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:38:10 +0000

If she was in a 9 year relationship and broke up 4 months ago then yes she needs more time. She is just trying to get her feet wet with the whole dating scene, she is not ready to jump in the pool.

By: k8

k8 — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:12:51 +0000

Look, nothing in love done half-assed is ever a good idea. If you like her and your want to proceed, then do it. Ready, schmedy. If I waited until I was ready for most of the things in my life, I’d be dead.