An ode to sex
Sex.
I like sex. It may be, the best thing ever invented. Better than any drug, any type of alcohol, any adrenaline rush you could ever imagine.
Getting naked, rolling around, grabbing, sweating. Just generally letting go of everything and concentrating on all the small moments which lead up to the ending. I love all of it. From the two hour long getting-to-know-every-inch-of-your-partner sex, to the ten minute “we both know what we want so let’s just do it,” type sex. Either way, I love it.
The best sex I always find, is a little bit of give and take. You cant always have it the way you want it because let’s face it, girls don’t always want their faces buried in a pillow. Give in to what she asks, then let her give in to you. In the end, everyone gets what they want. Sex cant be like baseball, you cant hit .330 and still be considered great. On the flip side, a woman can’t just lay there and expect us to deliver the goods everytime because in the same way they expect from us, we expect from them. Give and take.
Sex is the one place where there is pressure to deliver but it’s a welcomed pressure. At least for me it is. I welcome the challenge. You can watch all the sports, use all the power tools, drink all the beer you can- nothing, I mean NOTHING, makes you feel like more of a man than satisfying a woman. It’s the ultimate ego boost. The ultimate high, if you will.
This post really has no point to it. It’s just, well, I’ve never written about sex and since it’s on my mind so much, I figured why not. So I challenge my readers…
Let go of your conservative side for a second. Tell the internet what you think makes for the best sex. I welcome you to comment about positions, foreplay, whatever you want. Or just respond with a simple hell yeah! Anything works.
March 22nd, 2009 at 9:25 pm
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March 22nd, 2009 at 10:09 pm
the best sex is on a saturday night, when its raining, and it lasts until 5 in the morning
March 22nd, 2009 at 10:48 pm
“You cant always have it the way you want it because let’s face it, girls don’t always want their faces buried in a pillow.”
so that’s how you like it matty? we could probably get along, although i’d rather hold on to the headboard.
March 22nd, 2009 at 11:21 pm
I’m not responding to this…unless you’re going to buy me dinner first!
March 22nd, 2009 at 11:46 pm
This is a two cocktails mandatory discussion.
Top or bottom or both. It’s all good.
March 22nd, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Well, someone said I nibble earlobes a little too hard. I don’t think that’s possible. If I’m not biting them OFF, a la Mike Tyson, it’s fine, right? I agree with give-and-take, but I’d still rather a man to be a man for the most part.
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:28 am
Loud sex rules!
March 23rd, 2009 at 1:31 am
I’m definitely going to be responding, I just need to spend some time really organizing my thoughts
March 23rd, 2009 at 3:46 am
For me I think anything goes (I’ll try anything once anyway) and after a mojito or 2 I’ll do something again that I didn’t enjoy the first time just for kicks hehe x
March 23rd, 2009 at 5:54 am
I think good sex probably depends on my mood.
Sometimes, it can be good in that quick, can’t even manage to take off each other’s clothes way. Other times it can be good, when its loud, long, drawn out and creative, for want of a better word. And still, other times, its good when its that silent, looking into each others eyes, cerebral connection type of sex.
In a nutshell, I’m a fan.
March 23rd, 2009 at 8:08 am
What Hope said? Yeah.
Also I am in complete agreement about knowing you’ve satisfied a woman being a great ego boost.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:20 am
These days the best sex is the kind when the baby monitor is silent. Nothing kills the mood more than a crying baby in the next room.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:44 am
My god these answers have been lame so far. But you had to expect that, right?
I think the best sex is so rough that by the time you’re done, you both did something you probably shouldn’t ever tell someone about.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:54 am
I absolutely freaking LOVE when a guy breathes in or kisses my ear. And I LOVE being spanked.
I can’t believe I’m talking about this and it ain’t even 10am yet.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:59 am
A lady never tells about how she takes it in the pooper because it makes her husband happy.
March 23rd, 2009 at 10:04 am
Awesome! I just had sex last night and this morning (you and I giving each other a high five)
March 23rd, 2009 at 10:18 am
What I’ve inferred from this is that you basically need some.
March 23rd, 2009 at 10:42 am
I’m such a huge fan of good sex! And the worst thing in the world, is when you think its gonna be great - and its absolutely horrible - and yet you have to pretend like it was wonderful just so you don’t hurt the other’s feelings. Personally, I like grabbing
March 23rd, 2009 at 10:52 am
the give and take is huge. i hate when i’m the only one with ideas for angles, positions, etc. bores me.
March 23rd, 2009 at 10:56 am
I was once in a relationship for three months that was sustained entirely on the amazing sex alone. I should have been arrested for some of those moments….
March 23rd, 2009 at 11:02 am
i’m definitely a fan of sex. loud, fast, hard sex, slow, quiet, looking-into-eachothers-eyes sex, sex in the shower after sex…sex, 5 different positions sex…all good.
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:07 pm
I think the best sex is when you don’t know when you’re going to see each other again and you want to make every minute last. It helps to have feelings for the person, but sometimes, casual sex is good too. I wish I could be more eloquent, but I’ve not had sex in a year now.
Although, I will say this. When you’re both totally into it and the feelings are there, the orgasms are even more intense.
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:10 pm
I think sex is best when you know each other well enough to try something totally outside of your normal comfort zone, and be able to laugh if it doesn’t work quite how you imagined it would.
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:33 pm
I’m not trying to be lame and copy but I totally agree that there are all kinds of good sex. It’s not always the same, but that is what keeps it interesting! I usually find that when the man takes control I like it a bit better. Something about being dominated just a bit. And it definitely is ALL about give and take (and giving makes it hot too!)
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:40 pm
My favourite is sex in the shower that gets so hot you just have to shut the shower off and stumble your way to the bedroom to finish it off (shampoo and all).
March 23rd, 2009 at 1:59 pm
how long will it take you to ge to Boston?
March 23rd, 2009 at 3:34 pm
“You cant always have it the way you want it because let’s face it, girls don’t always want their faces buried in a pillow.”
I’m with Alexa– this line had my mouth agape a little (aka loved it)… and who says girls don’t always want that?!
I think the best sex is with someone who you can have all types of sex with… slow/fast/facedown/faceup/loving/rough, etc. I am very moody and like my sex to match my mood.
March 23rd, 2009 at 3:40 pm
<–is a fan. I think variety is key. Sex is like pizza (even bad pizza is usually better than no pizza), though every once in awhile I wonder why people even bother with cheese pizza….so boring!
March 23rd, 2009 at 4:04 pm
When I’ve been smiling about it all day, and plotting.
March 23rd, 2009 at 4:08 pm
I would like the option to delete that last comment since HEATER Rose is NOT my name!
March 23rd, 2009 at 5:00 pm
I’m with Beth that the best kind is the kind you can have it all with. No obligations either.
March 23rd, 2009 at 7:47 pm
my favorite is wake up sex. it’s something to give you chills all day at work.
March 23rd, 2009 at 8:57 pm
I don’t know why I’m admitting this but I am. I’m not niave about sex and I’m not necessarily a prude but I am a VIRGIN. 24 year old virgin. This post made me blush just a little.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 pm
The best sex is the sex you’ve been waiting all day to have. The kind that you’ve thought about over and over, and when you’re done, it’s even better than you thought it would be.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:48 pm
The best sex involves love, trust, and pushing the boundaries just a little bit farther than you have before.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:53 pm
Oh..my…..the anticipation of sex.. just gets me there…it’s all about making me anticipate it…
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:55 pm
“Let go of your conservative side for a second” HA! Have you read my blog?
I am with you though. I love sex too. All kinds. The sweet lovey dovey kind, the dirty hooker kind and the good old fashioned fucking kind. And a little ass slapping never hurt anyone. But what is the best is when there is no plan for sex and you two just look at each other and know, you both are thinking the same thing and then you just rip off each others clothes and get it on.
March 23rd, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Here I go, posting under a blog that is not mine again… you think by now I’d have my domain name figured out, but I’m still a pretty big newbie.
March 24th, 2009 at 1:02 am
What’s sex?
March 24th, 2009 at 1:34 am
Matt!! I have no post that can be half as good as this for a follow up. You bastard. I was going to post about friendship… but now that just sounds so lame. I may have to post about assassinations or something equally scandalous.
But, in answer to your questions… hair pulling, scratching, biting, throwing around. Oh hell yeah.
March 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
having someone kiss the back of my neck gets me instantly into the mood.
March 24th, 2009 at 11:01 am
great post, Mattie. I have never felt any pressure though- it must suck to be a guy, what if you don’t live up to it? i think your own expectations can really mess with your head, dontcha think?
March 24th, 2009 at 11:26 am
I just tortured myself reading all of this because I am trying to give up sex until marriage. What the heck am I thinking?!
The best sex is that hungry kind where you just have to have each other right then…especially if it leads to sex in semi-public places where the thrill of getting caught adds to the excitement.
I have to stop thinking about this now.
March 25th, 2009 at 3:45 am
the best sex is the wake- up- in -the- middle- of- the -night- and - reach- across- the- bed- to-find- each- other- sex
the best sex is when during it you choose some moments to go fast with quick biting kisses and slow with long passionate lingering touch…
the best sex is the kind of sex you have after sending dirty text messages to each other all day… the walk in the door and rush towards each other notebook-esk sex…
but by far- the best sex is with someone you are comfortable with..someone you trust…someone you can explore with and open yourself to.
March 25th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
i couldn’t concentrate after you mentioned “two hour get to know every part of each other” sex.
seriously. vision blurred.
March 27th, 2009 at 7:44 am
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March 27th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
You need to get laid my dear friend….
Then again, I do to.