Comments on: Those three little words

By: willo

willo — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 03:40:17 +0000

I was greatful to read you’r letter;I have one better and also a question lies within the words,One night long ago (mid late 70’s ) all 8 of us, Mom; 2 brothers, one sister and one cousen one dog were returning home from vacation in the middel of nowhere we came across a large migration of the june bugs so maney we had to pull over ,in this tiney gas station in the middle of no where sits a car covered in coins penneys,dimes nickles quarters half dollars and so on, if any one has ever seen this car or knows anything about it please send me a note to show the non believers,

By: Therapeutic Ramblings

Therapeutic Ramblings — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 04:37:28 +0000

I’ve only ever said it to three women, and only meant it twice. Those words get tossed around too much, but I tell those I’m with the importance. I guess I’m old fashioned like that.

By: clairemontgomerymd

clairemontgomerymd — Wed, 06 May 2009 02:29:38 +0000

i’m old school and wait for it. that may be the only thing that goes unsaid in my world.

By: maris

maris — Tue, 05 May 2009 18:48:57 +0000

When I was 17 I had a bestfriend/boyfriend/quasi-platonic man-friend who used to tell me he loved me with regularity. I was scared and never said it and when I did he told me he no longer felt the same way. I know, I know DAWSONS CREEK-ESQUE DRAMA.

It’s hard to say it for the first time but it’s definitely worth saying If you feel it, chance are you’re not the only one

By: sparklytosingle

sparklytosingle — Tue, 05 May 2009 17:31:22 +0000

What? There’s rules about who should say it first? Good heavens, I think if you’re far enough into a relationship that love has entered into the equation, then you’re far enough in to let go of rules that govern who can say what and when, no?

I agree with Angela - if you feel it, say it. You’re holding back because of fear that they won’t say it back. The only reason I would suggest that you hold off is if you are saying it way too soon, i.e. within a month of meeting the person, because then you’re right, it does have the potential to ruin something that could grow into a really beautiful relationship that could last if you just wait a bit longer and don’t scare the other person off.

However, if it’s been long enough, I don’t think you should hold off. Yes it’s scary to say it first. But if you really love them, and they don’t love you, wouldn’t you rather know so that you can move on? And if they DO say it back, it’s the greatest feeling in the world.

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 05 May 2009 15:54:06 +0000

I think if you feel it you should say it. But it’s still scary to say it first if you’re not sure they’re going to say it back.

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 05 May 2009 13:02:08 +0000

I always thought the guy was supposed to say it first…

By: L.C.T.

L.C.T. — Tue, 05 May 2009 11:12:34 +0000

I like the guy to say it first. All my exes I’ve waited a year after they’ve told me and then broken up with them soon after I’ve said it. This time round, I had to swallow saying it first and when he said it I said it right back. At least it meant that this time I knew.

By: Miss Milk

Miss Milk — Tue, 05 May 2009 08:41:43 +0000

My boyfriend found out that I loved him months ago. I didn’t tell him, it was just implied.

I wish, wish, wish I’d never told him, because it isn’t reciprocated, and I’m afraid it will never come naturally for him, now. There’s too much pressure.

I’ve always thought the guy should say it first.

Unfortunately, I was right.

By: Caz

Caz — Tue, 05 May 2009 06:57:21 +0000

I had a boy tell me he loved me first before I ever told him. It took me a good 3 months to feel right about saying it that time.

I’ve had other boys tell me they loved me and I’ve *never* been able to say it back to them. So maybe I’m on the other side of the scale?

But, one time, the most recent time, I hid it until I just about burst, but finally took that dive and said it first. Mostly just because I HAD to, and also because I knew he wasn’t the sort of boy who would say ‘I love you’ first. But he said it right back, and 3 years later we’re both still saying it. So it’s worked out? I guess?