Comments on: Hurting the one you love

By: aGuy

aGuy — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 01:16:00 +0000

Somehow people start thinking about themselves and lose their empathy and their bearings. They turn into monsters. It’s like they don’t even realize how hurtful they are - sometimes downright evil in little ways. My ex asked me to hang out with me and her new guy.

…she left me for him after he divorced her ex-best friend, broke my heart into pieces and left me penniless alone, and with the world on my shoulders, and wants to hang out, all of us, like she didn’t fuck us all over? Could she even imagine how a request like that feels? It’s sickening. That kind of carelessness is as bad as the offenses themselves.

By: The Bad One

The Bad One — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 09:50:09 +0000

I did it. I’m horrible. Why? I don’t know. I seriously don’t know….

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By: Ask Alice

Ask Alice — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 20:39:57 +0000

My friends boyfriend broke up with her via voicemail on her BIRTHDAY after being together for 9 years. awesome right?

I think it’s easier to hurt the one you love then to have to deal with all the emotions of a breakup. It’s cowardly and pathetic but gets the job done. Quickly.

By: Cassie

Cassie — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:42:14 +0000

hm, well actually im currently on the giving end of this ordeal, i dont mean i did something like cheat on my boyfriend but everytime he gets too close to me, i say something really hurtful. and i cant stop myself from hurting him really bad. i kno that i will say something but the only thing i can do is just not talk to him or else i will hurt him. but the thing is it hurts me to say those things more that it hurts for him to receive them. i really dont kno what to do, really i think maybe if he stayed far away from me that would be the only solution. i cant stop and i have no idea why.

By: clairemontgomerymd

clairemontgomerymd — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:34:05 +0000

if you figure it out, let me know. i have an eerily similar story.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:28:47 +0000

I’ve definitely been on the receiving end of this. And I don’t get it either, but it certainly has left me traumatized. I mean, really - why can’t we just be civil and rational to one another? In love or out of love - people still deserve respect.

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:14:03 +0000

People suck.

But at least they didn’t get stuck in marriages with these sucky people.

By: sparklytosingle

sparklytosingle — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:11:59 +0000

No kidding. I’ve been on the receiving end of this type of douchebaggery from my ex-fiance when he broke up with me. The “switch” went on immediately and the sweet guy I wanted to marry became a gigantic, cutthroat asshole.

I’m not mad at him anymore because honestly, it’s not good for me to carry around that type of anger. I get why he left, and I’m even glad we’re not together. But I was so upset for a long time that this man could turn on me so quickly and treat me like shit just because he’d decided he didn’t want me as a partner anymore. Like, come on. I wasn’t trying to win him back. A little civility would have made things much easier on both of us.

By: Mel Heth

Mel Heth — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:54:28 +0000

Having watched lots of friends go through lots of drama, I’ve come to the conclusion that there are ALWAYS little signs. I think a lot of people don’t want to see the little signs - we don’t want to admit that he could be pulling away or feeling different - but if we look closely, they are there. I do not think these signs are evident to people outside the relationship - only to the people in it.

I also think that men process a lot of their feelings without communicating them - they go through the pros and cons and mourning and everything else without sharing how they feel - and then they drop the bomb that they “can’t do this anymore.” I think they’re just wired differently than we are.

The best thing any girl can do is trust her intuition. If any little thing seems off, investigate it. Don’t ignore it or think it’ll all change when you’re married - because it likely won’t and you could be setting yourself up for a big heartbreak.