2. I rarely give my number out, as I don’t like people randomly calling me. I’d rather get their #.

3. Text. Low stress, and a good way to keep it informal. Grab a drink, meet up, etc. Text-flirting is also way easier.

4. It all depends on the context. If I hit it off with someone, probably a couple of days. If it is more random/casual….probably the next time I go out or plan on going out.

5. 99% of the time I text for the first contact. If I have a history with them, I may call….but I’d much rather text.

2. I’ve been given a boy’s number before….and I used it, but it was after contact had been made via other connections and we were already friends on the dating path.

3. Call. text is great and all, but a phone call means SO much more. You can understand more of what is going on if there is a phone call compared to a text. You can misread at text SUPER easily.

4. sooner is better than later. if you wait longer than 3 days, the girl starts to become uninterested and worried that she did something wrong to ellicit a non-phone call reaction. call sooner. she’ll be happy. you’ll be happy. the world will be happy.

5. it depends. sometimes i’d rather leave a message, and if they want to call back they will and then i’m not getting rejected to my face (ear whatever). i do return voicemails 90% of the time. if they don’t leave a voicemail, i figure it wasn’t important enough for me to call back (if it’s a number i don’t recognize).

Question 2: If a guy gave me his number, I would assume he wasn’t really interested in me, and no I wouldn’t call. (If he was into me, he’d get my number and make sure it happened!)

Question 3: A call is awesome! but it’s also a bit nerve-wracking, so if I happen to “miss it” and it goes to voice mail, I’ll call him back. A text is too casual & non-commital for first contact, but after that I’m all about text.

Question 4: If a guy contacted me the next day, I would love it. If it goes longer than 3 days (e.g. I meet him Sat, I should hear by Tues at the latest), I’m pretty skeptical about his interest.

Question 5: Yes I’d leave a voicemail, and yes I’d return one, even if it was to politely decline.questions or just one. Regardless, let’s get some feedback!

Yes. Unless I felt cornered into giving it to him. Then I’ll just screen his calls until he stops calling me.

Question 2: Guys, have you ever given a girl your phone number? And girls, if a guy gave you his number, would you use it?

I’d use it but not without first having a cocktail or four.

Question 3: What is more appropriate for the first contact, a call or a text?

Call. I prefer texts but not to strangers that you’re trying to impress. Would you send a thank you text message after a job interview? No. Bad form.

Question 4: How long should a guy/girl wait before making contact?

The wait 3 days thing is stupid. Don’t call me 2 hours after we meet but call me when you want to call me .

Question 5: If you call and get voicemail, do you leave a message? If someone leaves you a voicemail, do you call back?

Yes. Initially, you leave voicemails. Or I will not return calls. I leave them, so you should too.

I always return calls if someone leaves voicemail.

So my answers…

1. Yes, I expect a guy to call if I give him my number.
2. I think I would, but I would probably prefer if he called me.
3. I don’t know… I feel like texting sets the relationship off on that foot — I’m not convinced you can build something substantial from a text, but I’m still undecided. Personally I would prefer a call. I think. Ha.
4. I hate the “3 days” rule too. Just call if you want to call.
5. I don’t usually leave messages for anyone, but I always call back.

Thanks,
BP

I enjoyed reading your answers and the comments. Kind of nice to hear opinions from the other side.