Comments on: Too Much Is Never Enough

By: ETV

ETV — Sat, 22 May 2010 02:02:23 +0000

You don’t ever stop looking, everyone is always trying to be a perpetual motion machine.

By: Ann

Ann — Sun, 02 May 2010 18:43:03 +0000

I have been asking myself this question as well, now at 31, what do i do now? what have i been working towards all this time? i spent 6 years rising to the top of the retail store hierarchy only to find myself without a job as the whole company closed. Sure, my experience is good and i could find another maybe, but do i really want to work in excess of 50 hours a week, salary in a job force that increasingly puts more work, responsability and stress on the managers while they downsize support and any day could downsize you too? My marriage of 8 years is ending, been seperated for 9 months, Ive moved across the country and i just dont know how to take care of myself, because i no longer have job or husband to take care of. No children. What is worthwile? what do i do next? Find a man? find a job? Find myself? I have always been a people pleaser, how do i learn to please myself? and stop pathetically yearning for the company, interest and approval of others? its like i cant figure out what would make me happy, or interest me, so i leached onto others lives and tryed to help them/support them while having no goals of my own to work towards or putting the goals i did have on hold. Backfiring now as i have no one but myself around and a mess of a life to try to make sene of. I just dont know what i want to do with myself. And i fear doing things and making decisions based on the fact that i am lonely and lost.

By: amanda

amanda — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:47:33 +0000

im at the same place, but i feel like a fraud.
I train self development whilst my life seems at a stand still.
The answer to what next is indeed- just ‘BE’, and live in the present.
If you want the theory as to how, then go read Eckhart Tolle and Katie Byron’s books. They are great.
If you find out how to live it- then please- let me in on the secret!!!

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:45:13 +0000

John,

I agree with you 100% and wish more people shared this outlook. Thanks for sharing.

By: john

john — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:39:25 +0000

We find ourselves in such an interesting position. We get to decide what to do with our time. How many other living beings in the history of the universe can say this?

I have been to a lot of places in this world and seen a lot of things. I see myself as so much more fortunate than so many others, but if this is the case, why are they happier?

A lot is made of what to do with life. But really, what is there that needs to be done? Once a skyscraper is built next to the Hardee’s on 23rd street, will the world be complete? It is not as if we inherited this world with the task of building it into something better. Our job is simply to to what the rest of the creatures on this earth do, and that is to eat food and make copies of ourselves.

Yet so much is made about the career…It’s not about the job or the car or the clothes or the bank account. It is about happiness. But we cannot only be happy. We also need to be relied on. We need others to need us. I am envious of the Malays that live in the rain forest and have to watch out for one another so they don’t get eaten.

We are so fortunate…just look at what we are doing. We are sending digital code to space and back to each other at different parts of the world. But it seems we have abandoned the very things that make life worthwhile.

By: tina

tina — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 06:18:45 +0000

even at age 52 I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, in the last 2 years I’ve lost my 30 yr marriage to my high school sweetheart, then both parents in the same month & my only refuge was a retail job where because of massive turnovers & bad economic times I have progressivly lousy managers younger than me & they are so clueless , I’m fighting tooth & nail to keep a crappy job that I used to love & was good at for health benifits & losing I’m being harassed & feel like I’m in high school it’s cliques all over again. I used to be happy now I’m misreable, but I’m better off than many persons & yet I don’t know what to do next. I am living in the present & see no future for myself, I have lost my ability to dream a future , so I ask the question . now what?

By: Clo

Clo — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 22:45:59 +0000

Here I am, sharing the same feeling, and almost 40!! (before you know it, you will be were I am, belive me it goes quick). I am very successful in my career, but in nothing else. Here’s the sad part, most of us know where we go wrong, but what I’m struggling to understand, why do we keep on doing it, even if we understand where we go wrong.

This is what I learned:
- We focus all our energy on what we think will buy us joy. This however, takes up so much of our energy and time that no reserves are left to enjoy what we have accomplished.

I can leave you with this thought:
Do the best you can in all things in your life, leave the things you don’t enjoy, especially your job - since you spend almost 45% of your entire “awake” life doing your job (awake 16 hrs a day, of which 8 hours at your job).

My eldest son is almost 10 and the younger one will be 6 this year. I have been so busy creating a comfortable environment for everyone, that I am the only one not in it.

Advice to you and me:
- Consider the reason why you are chasing whatever. Now, starting today, starting now; start living for the reason and not the means.

By: Jo

Jo — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 12:55:04 +0000

Good grief! Hard work is one thing and you are never guaranteed anything despite parents and other influences inflicted upon us! My advise, if you don`t like it? Don`t bother, leave it,. Ultimately we all want to be happy and to do so means that we have to take chances. This means, if you hate your job, leave, hate your home, go make a new one, only here once and whilst all the above have no kids and little responsiblility other than themselves, thye are at liberty to do whatever, whenever and with no-ones permission and without letting anyone else down, the right to happiness and well being, therefore, just make a goal and assess if it is a achievable. If it is not, leave it…..move on! Stop moaning and just DO IT!

By: Kellen

Kellen — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:29:58 +0000

I think everyone has this feeling of wanting to be more than they already are. I go in and out of it myself. At times it feels like my life is pathetic even though on paper I’m quite accomplished. I do think it is a normal feeling which most people have. A friend and I talked on the topic once and he remarked, “everyone hates themselves man, you’re not special.”
So to help me remember I am not special, I volunteer at the local food bank and try to play with the neighboor kids when ever I can. It seems to be my escape. They don’t know how big of a loser I really feel like at times.

By: Andy Collins

Andy Collins — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 10:11:14 +0000

I know exactly what you mean. I just got back from a trip to Las Vegas and it took all my strength to try to enjoy the fact that I had a long weekend off, with my best friend, in a fun place, and that maybe my “present” is not so bad after all, and this could quite possibly be “it” — this IS my life. When I list all the things I have going for me, I’m overwhelmed by how lucky I am compared to my other friends… yet, I feel like I have no direction, I have no idea what my passion is or what I want to do with my life, and I’m subtracting years from my life with worry that I will reach retirement age and look back and regret not taking bigger risks to try to make myself happier. Yes, I know what it’s like.