Comments on: Too Much Is Never Enough http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/ Overcoming the Quarter-life Crisis Tue, 22 May 2012 02:43:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: gac http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3410 gac Sun, 07 Nov 2010 11:26:01 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3410 Apparently there haven't' been many posts recently. I literally punched in "where do I go from here" for the hell of it and found this. It's somewhat reassuring that I'm not alone with these thoughts. Apparently there haven’t’ been many posts recently. I literally punched in “where do I go from here” for the hell of it and found this. It’s somewhat reassuring that I’m not alone with these thoughts.

]]> By: Toddy http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3395 Toddy Fri, 27 Aug 2010 21:42:56 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3395 I know EXACTLY how you feel in where do I go from here. I spent 3 years of my fabulous roaring 20's and a fortune going to law school and now cant get a job as a lawyer bc of this fucking recession. Besides, I don't even know if I really really want to be a lawyer anymore. So where do I go from here? On top of which guys at bars keep asking me how old I am and when I say 27 they press me about how I must want to get married and how my biological clock is ticking which IT SO ISN'T, couldn't be further from the truth. So what people expect from me -- perfect career, relationship and maybe babies by 27-30 just doesn't seem in the cards for me. ahhhhhh. it makes me crazy. Don't worry I'm sure wherever you are going from here it'll all work out even though it doesn't feel that way right now. At least I hope so. I know EXACTLY how you feel in where do I go from here. I spent 3 years of my fabulous roaring 20’s and a fortune going to law school and now cant get a job as a lawyer bc of this fucking recession. Besides, I don’t even know if I really really want to be a lawyer anymore. So where do I go from here? On top of which guys at bars keep asking me how old I am and when I say 27 they press me about how I must want to get married and how my biological clock is ticking which IT SO ISN’T, couldn’t be further from the truth. So what people expect from me — perfect career, relationship and maybe babies by 27-30 just doesn’t seem in the cards for me. ahhhhhh. it makes me crazy. Don’t worry I’m sure wherever you are going from here it’ll all work out even though it doesn’t feel that way right now. At least I hope so.

]]> By: jamie http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3390 jamie Fri, 20 Aug 2010 05:16:12 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3390 I find myself in everyone's predicament whether past, present, or very easily, in the future, yet, the truth has all rung free. Service to others will always set me free. This is my experience time and time again. There is no explanation for it that this non-poetic man can give but just my experience. I think it is service from others that helps me through my hard times so clearly the logical continuation is to pay it forward. The more I focus on that goal in my life the softer the 'now what's can hit me. I think this is one of the greater missions in life to work towards and probably a connection point that all religions or spiritual ways of life have with each other. Thanks for an answer I find myself in everyone’s predicament whether past, present, or very easily, in the future, yet, the truth has all rung free. Service to others will always set me free. This is my experience time and time again. There is no explanation for it that this non-poetic man can give but just my experience. I think it is service from others that helps me through my hard times so clearly the logical continuation is to pay it forward. The more I focus on that goal in my life the softer the ‘now what’s can hit me. I think this is one of the greater missions in life to work towards and probably a connection point that all religions or spiritual ways of life have with each other. Thanks for an answer

]]> By: Brendalm33 http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3387 Brendalm33 Sun, 01 Aug 2010 05:19:47 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3387 I was going through a divorce and things were not going well with custody and money issues. I really bottomed out and truly came to my end. But I started readng the Bible everyday. Its all I could think of to do since there didn't seem to be any life back there where I was at. It said stuff like come to me all ye who labor and I will give you rest. Other verses like peace I give to you, not as the world gives to you, give I unto you that Jesus spoke about. So I just stayed there in that place reading the Bible and asking God to give me some faith in all this that I could have this abundant life. And I couldn't believe literally that I started to for once feel peace, joy and best of all this satisfaction feeling that I was where I was supposed to be in life and not continually trying to be or striving. Money once again crept in years later and so I returned to concentrating on the things of this world instead of a walk with God and things went back to dissatisfaction even though I'm successful in my job, have a wonderful daughter. I think its time for me to return to God instead of always feeling so dissastisfied. The eye is never satisfied with seeing nor the ear with hearing new things until I came to him. I was going through a divorce and things were not going well with custody and money issues. I really bottomed out and truly came to my end. But I started readng the Bible everyday. Its all I could think of to do since there didn’t seem to be any life back there where I was at. It said stuff like come to me all ye who labor and I will give you rest. Other verses like peace I give to you, not as the world gives to you, give I unto you that Jesus spoke about. So I just stayed there in that place reading the Bible and asking God to give me some faith in all this that I could have this abundant life. And I couldn’t believe literally that I started to for once feel peace, joy and best of all this satisfaction feeling that I was where I was supposed to be in life and not continually trying to be or striving. Money once again crept in years later and so I returned to concentrating on the things of this world instead of a walk with God and things went back to dissatisfaction even though I’m successful in my job, have a wonderful daughter. I think its time for me to return to God instead of always feeling so dissastisfied. The eye is never satisfied with seeing nor the ear with hearing new things until I came to him.

]]> By: ETV http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3379 ETV Sat, 22 May 2010 02:02:23 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3379 You don't ever stop looking, everyone is always trying to be a perpetual motion machine. You don’t ever stop looking, everyone is always trying to be a perpetual motion machine.

]]> By: Ann http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3374 Ann Sun, 02 May 2010 18:43:03 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3374 I have been asking myself this question as well, now at 31, what do i do now? what have i been working towards all this time? i spent 6 years rising to the top of the retail store hierarchy only to find myself without a job as the whole company closed. Sure, my experience is good and i could find another maybe, but do i really want to work in excess of 50 hours a week, salary in a job force that increasingly puts more work, responsability and stress on the managers while they downsize support and any day could downsize you too? My marriage of 8 years is ending, been seperated for 9 months, Ive moved across the country and i just dont know how to take care of myself, because i no longer have job or husband to take care of. No children. What is worthwile? what do i do next? Find a man? find a job? Find myself? I have always been a people pleaser, how do i learn to please myself? and stop pathetically yearning for the company, interest and approval of others? its like i cant figure out what would make me happy, or interest me, so i leached onto others lives and tryed to help them/support them while having no goals of my own to work towards or putting the goals i did have on hold. Backfiring now as i have no one but myself around and a mess of a life to try to make sene of. I just dont know what i want to do with myself. And i fear doing things and making decisions based on the fact that i am lonely and lost. I have been asking myself this question as well, now at 31, what do i do now? what have i been working towards all this time? i spent 6 years rising to the top of the retail store hierarchy only to find myself without a job as the whole company closed. Sure, my experience is good and i could find another maybe, but do i really want to work in excess of 50 hours a week, salary in a job force that increasingly puts more work, responsability and stress on the managers while they downsize support and any day could downsize you too? My marriage of 8 years is ending, been seperated for 9 months, Ive moved across the country and i just dont know how to take care of myself, because i no longer have job or husband to take care of. No children. What is worthwile? what do i do next? Find a man? find a job? Find myself? I have always been a people pleaser, how do i learn to please myself? and stop pathetically yearning for the company, interest and approval of others? its like i cant figure out what would make me happy, or interest me, so i leached onto others lives and tryed to help them/support them while having no goals of my own to work towards or putting the goals i did have on hold. Backfiring now as i have no one but myself around and a mess of a life to try to make sene of. I just dont know what i want to do with myself. And i fear doing things and making decisions based on the fact that i am lonely and lost.

]]> By: amanda http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3371 amanda Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:47:33 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3371 im at the same place, but i feel like a fraud. I train self development whilst my life seems at a stand still. The answer to what next is indeed- just 'BE', and live in the present. If you want the theory as to how, then go read Eckhart Tolle and Katie Byron's books. They are great. If you find out how to live it- then please- let me in on the secret!!! im at the same place, but i feel like a fraud.
I train self development whilst my life seems at a stand still.
The answer to what next is indeed- just ‘BE’, and live in the present.
If you want the theory as to how, then go read Eckhart Tolle and Katie Byron’s books. They are great.
If you find out how to live it- then please- let me in on the secret!!!

]]> By: Erin http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3365 Erin Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:45:13 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3365 John, I agree with you 100% and wish more people shared this outlook. Thanks for sharing. John,

I agree with you 100% and wish more people shared this outlook. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: john http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3362 john Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:39:25 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3362 We find ourselves in such an interesting position. We get to decide what to do with our time. How many other living beings in the history of the universe can say this? I have been to a lot of places in this world and seen a lot of things. I see myself as so much more fortunate than so many others, but if this is the case, why are they happier? A lot is made of what to do with life. But really, what is there that needs to be done? Once a skyscraper is built next to the Hardee's on 23rd street, will the world be complete? It is not as if we inherited this world with the task of building it into something better. Our job is simply to to what the rest of the creatures on this earth do, and that is to eat food and make copies of ourselves. Yet so much is made about the career...It's not about the job or the car or the clothes or the bank account. It is about happiness. But we cannot only be happy. We also need to be relied on. We need others to need us. I am envious of the Malays that live in the rain forest and have to watch out for one another so they don't get eaten. We are so fortunate...just look at what we are doing. We are sending digital code to space and back to each other at different parts of the world. But it seems we have abandoned the very things that make life worthwhile. We find ourselves in such an interesting position. We get to decide what to do with our time. How many other living beings in the history of the universe can say this?

I have been to a lot of places in this world and seen a lot of things. I see myself as so much more fortunate than so many others, but if this is the case, why are they happier?

A lot is made of what to do with life. But really, what is there that needs to be done? Once a skyscraper is built next to the Hardee’s on 23rd street, will the world be complete? It is not as if we inherited this world with the task of building it into something better. Our job is simply to to what the rest of the creatures on this earth do, and that is to eat food and make copies of ourselves.

Yet so much is made about the career…It’s not about the job or the car or the clothes or the bank account. It is about happiness. But we cannot only be happy. We also need to be relied on. We need others to need us. I am envious of the Malays that live in the rain forest and have to watch out for one another so they don’t get eaten.

We are so fortunate…just look at what we are doing. We are sending digital code to space and back to each other at different parts of the world. But it seems we have abandoned the very things that make life worthwhile.

]]> By: tina http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/07/15/too-much-is-never-enough/#comment-3361 tina Sat, 06 Feb 2010 06:18:45 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=803#comment-3361 even at age 52 I don't know what I want to be when I grow up, in the last 2 years I've lost my 30 yr marriage to my high school sweetheart, then both parents in the same month & my only refuge was a retail job where because of massive turnovers & bad economic times I have progressivly lousy managers younger than me & they are so clueless , I'm fighting tooth & nail to keep a crappy job that I used to love & was good at for health benifits & losing I'm being harassed & feel like I'm in high school it's cliques all over again. I used to be happy now I'm misreable, but I'm better off than many persons & yet I don't know what to do next. I am living in the present & see no future for myself, I have lost my ability to dream a future , so I ask the question . now what? even at age 52 I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, in the last 2 years I’ve lost my 30 yr marriage to my high school sweetheart, then both parents in the same month & my only refuge was a retail job where because of massive turnovers & bad economic times I have progressivly lousy managers younger than me & they are so clueless , I’m fighting tooth & nail to keep a crappy job that I used to love & was good at for health benifits & losing I’m being harassed & feel like I’m in high school it’s cliques all over again. I used to be happy now I’m misreable, but I’m better off than many persons & yet I don’t know what to do next. I am living in the present & see no future for myself, I have lost my ability to dream a future , so I ask the question . now what?

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