Comments on: Honesty vs. courtesy

By: James

James — Thu, 17 May 2012 00:24:19 +0000

hmm…

Did anyone notice the word “petty”?
I find it very disturbing that someone would act cold as ice for petty reasons

By: lane

lane — Tue, 15 May 2012 08:18:49 +0000

Honestly the older I get the less. I care really. If u don’t like me I can usually tell off the bat, and youl learn to love me. Although I don’t like 2 faced people, say what u need to say cause I sure will! I also don’t like people who are fake nice or too nice with no real reason other than they are dick eaters! When it comes down to it kill me with the truth then get caught up in a lie!!

By: Ty

Ty — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 02:05:04 +0000

For me, I respect people that I don’t like, and they respect me back. So… I think it’s either the second option or neither.

By: SCwirl

SCwirl — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:03:56 +0000

Personally, if i dont like someone, I will be polite.
I would be nice and courteous towards the person.
I would NOT talk behind his or her back.
I might mention that I didn’t like the person, but for practical motives.
My sense of honour would not permit me to be an asshole.

I would neither lie, nor offend.

By: John Fraser

John Fraser — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 16:17:53 +0000

The bible says that if you hate someone and say nice things about them/to them, you’re a liar, and if you say terrible things, you’re a slanderer; It’s best, I think, to try and work out your differences.

By: ETV

ETV — Sat, 22 May 2010 01:57:51 +0000

Today there isn’t any reason to be hostile to someone you don’t like, you’d avoid the person and get on with your life whilst around them. Honesty might be a virtue some people respect, but I just don’t feel there is a need to confront people you dislike, especially for petty reasons.

I suppose at the end of the day the one which is worse, is the one you can’t live with. You can bottle up a lot of hatred for someone as time goes on, with no way to vent it you’re surely going to pop.

Human emotions seem to overpower the majority of the population vs rational thought.

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:18:05 +0000

Hey, what’s up with no new posts?

I don’t care what someone thinks about anyone else as long as they’re polite to their face.

A few times I’ve run across people I didn’t particularly care for at the first few meetings, but after a few more began to warm to them or they to me or perhaps they changed or maybe my perspective did. If I had acted cold toward them the subsequent relationship (what little I allow with anyone not involved in my life…time, kids, job usually determine this) would never have had opportunity.

On the other hand, if the are polite to my face and trashing me behind my back, I am assured through experience that the hearers are well aware of this person’s two-facedness and give their words little credability and them little respect.

By the bye; like your stuff, keeping writing.

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:22:41 +0000

A little of both?

I know someone who has no obvious reason to dislike me as I have always been generous and thoughtful towards them. They go through phases of blatant rudeness to my face to being overly pleasant. I think it’s easier to handle her when she’s rude because I feel justified in my dislike that I hide under the surface. When she’s being fake and bubbly, it means that I have to continue being nice to someone who I know dislikes me, if that makes any sense. I have to be nice to her already out of obligation, but it’s like insult to injury because at the very surface my frustration no longer seems justified.

By: Stacey

Stacey — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 19:43:21 +0000

If someone dislikes me, I’d rather they are cold (but hopefully at least respectful) towards me rather than acting overly nice and then trashing me behind my back.

By: Emma

Emma — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:29:38 +0000

A person who acts overly nice is the worst.

If you’re going to believe something, show it. Don’t hide behind a wall of lies.