I suppose at the end of the day the one which is worse, is the one you can’t live with. You can bottle up a lot of hatred for someone as time goes on, with no way to vent it you’re surely going to pop.

Human emotions seem to overpower the majority of the population vs rational thought.

I don’t care what someone thinks about anyone else as long as they’re polite to their face.

A few times I’ve run across people I didn’t particularly care for at the first few meetings, but after a few more began to warm to them or they to me or perhaps they changed or maybe my perspective did. If I had acted cold toward them the subsequent relationship (what little I allow with anyone not involved in my life…time, kids, job usually determine this) would never have had opportunity.

On the other hand, if the are polite to my face and trashing me behind my back, I am assured through experience that the hearers are well aware of this person’s two-facedness and give their words little credability and them little respect.

By the bye; like your stuff, keeping writing.

I know someone who has no obvious reason to dislike me as I have always been generous and thoughtful towards them. They go through phases of blatant rudeness to my face to being overly pleasant. I think it’s easier to handle her when she’s rude because I feel justified in my dislike that I hide under the surface. When she’s being fake and bubbly, it means that I have to continue being nice to someone who I know dislikes me, if that makes any sense. I have to be nice to her already out of obligation, but it’s like insult to injury because at the very surface my frustration no longer seems justified.

If you’re going to believe something, show it. Don’t hide behind a wall of lies.